I'm Sarah. I'm a small town girl from Dayton Ohio married to the love of my life, mother to the sweetest baby boy, snuggler of the world's sweetest doggie and follower of Jesus Christ! I love photographing love, life and memories. So sit back, grab a cup of coffee and enjoy some of my most recent work.
It’s WEDNESDAY and you know what that means. It’s Wedding Wednesday. In the second chapter of the series we are talking about….(drumroll please)…wedding day tips and advice!!
Your wedding day is one of the biggest days of your life. You want it to go off without a hitch but you also want to enjoy it. As a wedding photographer and a past bride, I have some ideas that can help both of those happen.
Seems pretty self-explanatory, but not so easy to do. Yes it is a big day, yes it is an important day, it’s a day you have been dreaming about for years…but it’s also a day. It’s a day you can’t control the weather on, it’s a day where the sun will rise in the East and will set in the West. It’s a day where you marry your best friend and the love of your life. That’s the important thing. That’s the part that will relax you. And if that doesn’t work, have another mimosa and laugh with your family and friends about all the little things!!
Nominate someone to be your wedding day coordinator. Have a family member, a friend (who isn’t in your bridal party) or a paid wedding planner, be in charge of your day. Have them worry about if the cake is there yet or if the caterer is busy working away or if the flowers are delivered and arranged properly!! Basically just have them handle anything that might come up along the way. This will help you relax and enjoy every moment of your day! Trust me on this one…you will be so happy you took this step. If I could go back and re-do anything about my wedding day (and it was literally the best.day.ever!) it would be to have someone step in and handle all of these things. So I wouldn’t have to stress about all the little things and could soak in the fact that I was marrying my best friend.
This one is so important and man it’s so hard!!!! There is usually family and friends in town and your mind races thinking of all sorts of things…but try!! Try so hard to go to bed early and sleep late. You want to be rested to enjoy all you can. Plus who wants bags under their eyes in their wedding pictures ;)!
Oh, my goodness. Remember to eat throughout the day. Get in your normal 3 square meals. You will thank me for thinking about this one. Don’t let your sugar drop on you. Don’t think you’ll be able to eat that dinner you are so excited about it. Everyone will want to talk to you, your dress will be too tight, you’ll be too nervous…so eat a hearty breakfast (think eggs, toast, bacon), a decent lunch, heck maybe even a healthy snack before you head down the aisle! You’ll thank me for this one when you don’t get sick feeling and can stay in the moment!! Or if you’re like me, you won’t get hangry and want to rip someone’s head off (I can’t tell how many times, I have to apologize for all the mean things I said when I was hungry!!)
Enjoy all the moments. Enjoy getting your hair done. Enjoy putting your dress on (or if you’re the groom reading this, enjoy putting that suit on). Enjoy laughing and giggling with your friends. Enjoy getting your pictures taken. Enjoy walking down the aisle. Enjoy your ceremony. Enjoy it all. It will all be over in an instant!!! I have heard so many couples say, “it doesn’t feel real” or “I can’t believe this day is finally here”. But in an instant, your day will be over and you will be married!! So enjoy all the moments.
5) Take a break.
This one has several applications. The first would take a break from situations and people when needed. If a family member (or friend) is making you stress or let’s be honest, driving you crazy…take a break from that person or situation. Walk outside, go check on something, give them something to do, or just be honest (in a nice way) that you just need a break for a second. The second application is to take a step back and pause during your ceremony or reception and bask in your day. The best advice I got before my wedding was this…. so my husband and I stepped away from the action for a moment at our reception and just took it all in, we watched our guests dance, we talked to each other, we ate some cake (the important things in life!!) and took a mental picture of our day in that moment! So that is my advice here….stand back and take it all in.
Keep focused on what this day means. Yes, you have planned this day for months and months and you are focused on all the little details and making sure it goes off well. But I urge you to stay focused on the end game…. being married. But also what marriage means. This wedding day that you have been focused on for months or heck even years, will be finished in just a day, but your marriage is for a LIFETIME. It is the joining of your hearts, souls, bodies with each other and with Christ forever to do his work and will for the rest of your days on this earth until He calls you home. So I urge you to keep your eyes, your heart, and your mind focused on that fact. That starting with this day, you will be together for the rest of your life.